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We’re Not in Kansas Anymore

“They aren’t coming to us [the church] any more…. We are no longer the first place people think about when life falls apart. We have to actually do the “Go” part of the Great Commission.” This is from a blog post by Ron Edmondson: Paradigms of the “New Normal” in Church Leadership

This is a good article and I recommend that you read it.  Mr. Edmonson is, I think, trying to get the church – i.e. you and I – to recognize that “we’re not in Kansas anymore,” as Dorothy said to Toto when they found themselves in the land of Oz.

What did Dorothy do in Oz?  She built relationships – the tin man, the straw man, the Lion, little green people, a nicely dressed witch, Oz himself.

How diwizard-of-oz-original1she do it?  She walked down the yellow brick road, out into the world of Oz.  And there she encountered others.  She listened to their story (“I’m rusty and can’t move”, “I’m afraid and can’t move”…).  She told them who she was (“I’m lost and trying to get home”).  She invited them to come with her on the journey.

It’s about relationships, folks. How the church markets itself is through building relationships one person at a time.

Here’s another angle on why we should do this:  Put yourself in the visitor’s shoes.  How do you feel when you walk into a new place, especially a place where everyone seems to know everyone else?  I feel nervous and a bit scared.  What does it mean to you when someone speaks to you in this situation?  It makes me feel much less nervous.  It makes me feel a bit more included.

Jesus was all about love and love is evidenced in hospitality.  Speak to the visitor in church tomorrow.

New Models

Bad habit: I read the last few pages of Diana Butler Bass’s new book, Christianity After Religion, recently while sitting in a bookstore.  Good news:  it was good so I’ll read the rest.

Just from my brief reading, I was reminded of the Celtic model of evangelism that I outlined in an earlier post. That model for evangelism was:

  • Fellowship,
  • Ministry and Conversations
  • Belief & Invitation to Commitment.

Butler Bass talks about a new model for the church of “belonging, behaving and believing.”  Which, I believe, corresponds to the Celtic model above:

  • Belonging=Fellowship
  • Behaving=Ministry and Conversations
  • Believing=Belief and Invitation to Commitment.

What might this  model look like in a local congregation?  This is what we do at the Episcopal church where I work so I’ll describe that for you.  We work hard to engage visitors/newcomers in on-going conversation about who we are and who they are. Storytelling.  Clergy and staff follow up with phone calls and emails; we take them out for coffee or lunch; other parishioners visit them; we are intentional about talking to them on Sunday morning; we ask them to help in small ways with programs and events.  We invite, engage, share.

Behaving or ministry and conversations as Butler Bass terms it is just more of the same.  We’re more intentional about inviting and involvement; we pair them with a mentor in the parish; we connect them with small groups and get them involved. If they have children, we work to incorporate the children into events, programs and classes.

As a last step, or sometimes in the midst of the first two steps depending on the person, we ask if they are interested in formal membership.  Many say “yes”; some say “not yet”.  I haven’t kept any hard data, but I find that the more involved the person was with a church in  the past, the longer it takes them to make a formal commitment of membership to our church.  It is hard to let go of the past often.  That’s okay.    But in the transition  time, we consider them members of our church.  And we respect them enough to expect something of them.    We expect them to be involved in worship and programs and give of their time and talents, and we expect them to give financially.  When I say to these folks that we have expectations of them just as they have of us, I have never had anyone get angry or refuse.  Isn’t that kind of amazing?  Why?  I think it is because they are by then part of the community – they have become connected to us just as we have to them. They have become connected to our story – the Christian story as well as the story of who we are at that particular church.

St. Patrick  might have said that he and his missionaries were learning about the culture and the lives of the people before asking for a commitment.  I would say that today we should be doing the same – engaging people in worship, fellowship and ministries all while telling the story of who we are as Christians and helping them to find where they can fit into that.  And out of that we all walk into greater commitment to God, the church and each other.

Evangelism:  it’s radical hospitality.  Inviting, engaging and incorporating.